Posts Tagged ‘younger times’

Izzy

Monday, December 21st, 2009

Today I received news of the passing of Izzy, the cat I spent my teenage years growing up with. He made it to seventeen years old, and we first got him when I was thirteen, shortly after the death of Sundance. I decided in my bereft innocence that I wanted a replacement that looked just like him, and thus Izzy was chosen for his similar orange and white complexion.

Izzy turned out to be very little like Sundance. From kittenhood he was the grumpiest cat I’ve known, fiercely independent, extremely defensive and only ever playing or showing love on his own terms. He would attack frequently and heaven help you if you tried cradling him upside down (or holding him at all for more than brief periods of time). He was always such an old curmudgeon, and it was unusual that his body had to grow into his personality.

He was never the smartest cat, either. He used to charge at the other cat he saw in the mirror, for instance. It would sound like the galloping of a tiny horse as he got up speed and rammed that other cat with his head, causing the mirror to reverberate throughout the entire house. I think he grew out of that behaviour after a year or so, but I liked to joke that the damage was done by that point.

He was an indoor cat, and hated it. My parents used to tell me that indoor cats grew disinterested with the outside world, but I knew that was never the case for Izzy. He would constantly make mad dashes for freedom whenever a door was left open or if he felt he could claw his way through a screen (which he managed several times). Being the less-brainy type I described, though, he would always stop at the first flower he encountered in order to sniff it, giving us ample opportunity to retrieve him. There were only a few times he ever made it out unnoticed for any significant period of time, and he never went far. One evening he got out and the next morning my parents found him chasing after a terrified neighbourhood cat across our backyard.

We used to try taking him to my parents’ cottage, and that never went well: two hours of him sitting in his cat-carrier, meowing plaintively the entire trip. A lesser cat would have tired out or just given up five or ten minutes into the trip, but he would never stop for the entire two hour journey, constantly changing up his voice and pattern so we had no chance to grow accustomed to it.

He loved being at the cottage, though, exploring its nooks and crannies, and it was one of the places he would be most affectionate. I slept in the top half of a bunk-bed, and he would spend about ten minutes trying to figure out how to climb the ladder unsuccessfully until I finally helped him up, and he would sleep in the bed with me.

One story I like to tell is how I was napping on the couch at the cottage one time, when he suddenly jumped up on my chest and started nuzzling me. I was surprised by the unusual affection he was showing as I pulled myself out of my sleepy haze. I wrenched my eyes open only to have my gaze returned by a wide-eyed, terrified rodent that was barely centimetres from my face. Naturally I screamed like a little girl as my skeleton tried to leap outside the rest of my body, sending the two of them careening across the room. My dad heard this from the balcony where he was reading the newspaper, and as he opened the screen door all we heard was a furious galloping noise, and all we saw was a dark blur as the rodent darted out onto the porch and to freedom. My dad managed to slam the screen door shut just in the way of the cat that was hurtling after it in pursuit, separating the two.

After I went away to university I saw him a lot less, and my allergies made it difficult to spend huge amounts of time with him. He eventually moved in with my aunt, who took excellent care of him, and in his later years discovered other quirky things about him (such as one of his favourite foods being corn on the cob). I like to think he calmed down a lot in his elder years, although every time I visited he would be curmudgeonly as ever.

The last few months he apparently was having a harder time of things. My aunt had to feed him with a syringe and inject him with medications regularly. He seemed to improve recently and was even eating and enjoying food on his own, when he was hit with some kind of clot-related affliction that left him terribly weak and upset (my aunt thinks it was a stroke, but the vet isn’t sure). There was no reasonable choice other than to put him down and end his suffering at that point. I was woken up by the call from my parents this morning, and got the chance to talk to my aunt about it a little later on. It took a few hours for it to sink for me and I’ve been going back and forth between being shell-shocked and morose.

We are going to have him cremated, and bury his ashes up at the cottage, same as we did for Sundance over seventeen years ago. I like to think it’s where he would have chosen, if he could.

I knew about his declining health, and that it was unlikely I would get to see him before he died. I had still hoped he might make it through until March or so, when I have a wedding to attend on the east coast and might have been able to do a brief layover to see him in Toronto. I suppose it wasn’t meant to be, though. I am sad to have missed a final opportunity to see him, but seventeen years is a long life for any cat, and his was a good one, filled with people that loved and took care of him.

The brief time I visited back in 2008 and got to see him at the cottage, he chose this spot underneath an island table in the kitchen as the best location to keep an eye on foot traffic:

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… of course, his vigilance had its limits.

So long, Izzy. I will miss you.

Dan.

A lifetime of memories

Tuesday, May 19th, 2009

Rehearsal let out early tonight, so I have time to write an update as reruns of The Office keep me amused in the background. Hooray!

My team won a second time at Theatresports last Friday, which means we’re returning again this Friday. My teammates did well, but it was a close call and I didn’t feel like I deserved to win… I let myself get psyched out again, something which hasn’t happened to me in quite a while now, and basically failed to contribute anything significant on stage. I took a class at the Seattle Festival of Improv back in February and was a bit shocked by a revelation that occurred there: the teacher had all 30 or so of us line up in order of the number of years we’ve been doing improv, and I was third from the front of the line… notwithstanding some considerable dry spells I’ve had, I’ve been improvising for about 10 years now. We’re all permitted to regress and make mistakes, especially in improv, but I’ve been doing this for so long; I’m pretty humbled by my ability to lose it all in an instant and suddenly behave as if it were my first time on stage. Hopefully this Friday will be better.

Saturday marks the five year anniversary of my arrival in the United States. I’m having a barbecue in the afternoon to celebrate, but don’t know what attendance is going to be like. If you read this blog and can make it, I’d love to have you! I’m a little nonplussed about the whole situation… it certainly doesn’t feel like I’ve been living on my own in a foreign country and doing that whole adult thing for five years now.

I was supposed to clean my condo this past weekend in preparation for it, but only got so far as cleaning the bathroom (itself by no means a small task). Gonna have to find time this week to finish the job… don’t quite know what hat I’m going to pull that rabbit out of.

In a similar vein of milestones, time passing, sunrise-sunset and the like, my parents just sold their house in Toronto. For many families this would be nothing special, but it has some significance to me… my parents spent over thirty years there… it’s the house I grew up in with them and my brother, the only home I’ve ever known in Toronto, and the place I’ve always listed as my “permanent” address. With me flown from the nest and my brother starting in assisted living, my parents are eager to move to a smaller place that’s less of a burden for them (my dad in particular has had nothing but grief maintaining it over three decades). They are far more sentimentally attached to the cottage, and from their vantage point I can hardly blame them, but it’s weird for me… I’ve always taken for granted that I have a lifetime of memories built up there (right back to the earliest I’ve got – I’m talking stuff like being held by my dad in a rocking chair while he sings “rock a bye baby” to me) that I can revisit anytime by going there, and now, well, I have only the memories. It’s not a big deal to me – it’s the memories that are important, after all, and not the place itself – but it’s another little stinging reminder of how quickly life is passing by.

It’s somewhat ironic that in getting the place ready for sale, my parents have had to overhaul the entire house to the point where it seems practically new. All of the old knob and tube wiring has been replaced, new floors installed (ancient carpets were pulled up from the upstairs only to reveal beautiful hardwood flooring underneath… who knew?), old basement rooms thick with dust and disuse now revitalized. My mom has said she actually wouldn’t mind staying, but my dad is determined to get out while the getting’s good.

Fiddler quickly approaches; I look forward to getting my evenings back when it opens. Things remain busy at work, but I’m enjoying it and I feel appreciated by them.

Life, it seems, carries on…

Dan.

Drinks and stories from our youths

Sunday, January 25th, 2009

If I’m understanding the reports on the iTunes  developer website correctly (and it’s entirely possible I’m not), iProv has been downloaded nearly 1,000 times in the 5 days since its release. Primarily in the U.S., but also Canada and the rest of the world as well, including (more surprisingly) many non-English speaking countries. Not bad for an application with a very narrow audience… especially since it doesn’t show up in any lists on iTunes that I’ve seen, so unless you’re searching specifically for it, you won’t find it. I’ve spread the word in a couple online improv communities but I wasn’t expecting it to reach a tenth of that many people, especially in its first week. I just wish I could find out more about the folks who’ve been downloading it.

My attempts to get my washer repaired have been frustrating. I called a company on Thursday, and after spending several minutes setting up an appointment they informed me they couldn’t work on a washer that had a dryer stacked on top of it. So I canceled the appointment, called another company and was grateful when they told me that they would be able to send someone out later the same day, they would call to set up the appointment and the stacked washer/dryer wasn’t a problem.

Only, I never heard back from them. So I hit redial on my phone the next day and called them back to find out what had happened. After much confusion they said they had me in their records, but that I had canceled because of the stacked unit problem. Realizing I must have accidentally dialed the first company instead of the second, I apologized profusely and dialed the other number in my phone, which after another bout of confusion I realized had taken me to the exact same company.

After some furious scouring on the Internet to try and figure out just who I’d been calling the other day, I realized that there were multiple listings of companies with different names and phone numbers but all operating out of the same address, and they were actually aliases for a single company. So what had in fact happened the previous day was that I had phoned the same company twice on two different numbers, with two completely different results. It just seemed they had conveniently forgotten about the second time.

I’ve since made an appointment for Tuesday with what I’ve confirmed is an entirely different company that says they can handle the stacked washer/dryer. Hopefully there won’t be more surprises… I need to do laundry.

I had some friends over last night and amidst a few too many drinks and stories from our youths, I became acutely aware of how much events that are much more significant to us as children than they are to the grown-ups around us can stick with us and affect who we are as adults. Their stories triggered me to tell a story I’d never told anyone before, not because I was embarrassed by it so much as it had never seemed important or interesting enough to tell. I actually surprised myself that I had never told it to anyone before, though, and was in fact so surprised that I want to retell it here before I forget about it again.

Read more tales of awkwardness…

Dan.